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How do your exercises go on�拭 �Can you manage a pretty vigorous 'sauteur' between the pillars�拭 �Are you got into stirrups yet�拭 �'Faites´vous assaut aux armes�拭 �But�察�above all�察�what does Marcel say of you�拭 �Is he satisfied�拭 �Pray be more particular in your accounts of yourself�察�for though I have frequent accounts of you from others�察�I desire to have your own too。 Adieu。 Yours�察�truly and friendly。
LETTER CXL
LONDON�察�May 2�察�O。 S。 1751
DEAR FRIEND�此 �Two accounts�察�which I have very lately received of you�察�from two good judges�察�have put me into great spirits�察�as they have given me reasonable hopes that you will soon acquire all that I believe you want�此�I mean the air�察�the address�察�the graces�察�and the manners of a man of fashion。 As these two pictures of you are very unlike that which I received�察�and sent you some months ago�察�I will name the two painters�此�the first is an old friend and acquaintance of mine�察�Monsieur d'Aillon。 His picture is�察�I hope�察�like you�察�for it is a very good one�此�Monsieur Tollot's is still a better�察�and so advantageous a one�察�that I will not send you a copy of it�察�for fear of making you too vain。 So far only I will tell you�察�that there was but one BUT in either of their accounts�察�and it was this�此�I gave d'Aillon the question ordinary and extraordinary�察�upon the important article of manners�察�and extorted this from him�此 �But�察�since you will know it�察�he still wants that last beautiful varnish�察�which raises the colors�察�and gives brilliancy to the piece。 Be persuaded that he will acquire it�此�he has too much sense not to know its value�察�and if I am not greatly mistaken�察�more persons than one are now endeavoring to give it him。 ;Monsieur Tollot says�此 �In order to be exactly all that you wish him�察�he only wants those little nothings�察�those graces in detail�察�and that amiable ease�察�which can only be acquired by usage of the great world。 I am assured that he is�察�in that respect�察�in good hands。 I do not know whether that does not rather imply in fine arms。; Without entering into a nice discussion of the last question�察�I congratulate you and myself upon your being so near that point at which I so anxiously wish you to arrive。 I am sure that all your attention and endeavors will be exerted�察�and�察�if exerted�察�they will succeed。 Mr。 Tollot says�察�that you are inclined to be fat�察�but I hope you will decline it as much as you can�察�not by taking anything corrosive to make you lean�察�but by taking as little as you can of those things that would make you fat。 Drink no chocolate�察�take your coffee without cream�此�you cannot possibly avoid suppers at Paris�察�unless you avoid company too�察�which I would by no means have you do�察�but eat as little at supper as you can�察�and make even an allowance for that little at your dinners。 Take occasionally a double dose of riding and fencing�察�and now that summer is come�察�walk a good deal in the Tuileries。 It is a real inconvenience to anybody to be fat�察�and besides it is ungraceful for a young fellow。 'A propos'�察�I had like to have forgot to tell you�察�that I charged Tollot to attend particularly to your utterence and diction�察�two points of the utmost importance。 To the first he says�此 �His enunciation is not bad�察�but it is to be wished that it were still better�察�and he expresses himself with more fire than elegance。 Usage of good company will instruct him likewise in that。; These�察�I allow�察�are all little things�察�separately�察�but aggregately�察�they make a most important and great article in the account of a gentleman。 In the House of Commons you can never make a figure without elegance of style�察�and gracefulness of utterance�察�and you can never succeed as a courtier at your own Court�察�or as a minister at any other�察�without those innumerable 'petite riens dans les manieres�察�et dans les attentions'。 Mr。 Yorke is by this time at Paris�察�make your court to him�察�but not so as to disgust�察�in the least�察�Lord Albemarle�察�who may possibly dislike your considering Mr。 Yorke as the man of business�察�and him as only 'pour orner la scene'。 Whatever your opinion may be upon THAT POINT�察�take care not to let it appear�察�but be well with them both by showing no public preference to either。
Though I must necessarily fall into repetitions by treating the same subject so often�察�I cannot help recommending to you again the utmost attention to your air and address。 Apply yourself now to Marcel's lectures�察�as diligently as you did formerly to Professor Mascow's�察�desire him to teach you every genteel attitude that the human body can be put into�察�let him make you go in and out of his room frequently�察�and present yourself to him�察�as if he were by turns different persons�察�such as a minister�察�a lady�察�a superior�察�an equal�察�and inferior�察�etc。 Learn to seat genteelly in different companies�察�to loll genteelly�察�and with good manners�察�in those companies where you are authorized to be free�察�and to sit up respectfully where the same freedom is not allowable。 Learn even to compose your countenance occasionally to the respectful�察�the cheerful�察�and the insinuating。 Take particular care that the motions of your hands and arms be easy and graceful�察�for the genteelness of a man consists more in them than in anything else�察�especially in his dancing。 Desire some women to tell you of any little awkwardness that they observe in your carriage�察�they are the best judges of those things�察�and if they are satisfied�察�the men will be so too。 Think now only of the decorations。 Are you acquainted with Madame Geoffrain�察�who has a great deal of wit�察�and who�察�I am informed�察�receives only the very best company in her house�拭�Do you know Madame du Pin�察�who�察�I remember�察�had beauty�察�and I hear has wit and reading�拭 �I could wish you to converse only with those who�察�either from their rank�察�their merit�察�or their beauty�察�require constant attention�察�for a young man can never improve in company where he thinks he may neglect himself。 A new bow must be constantly kept bent�察�when it grows older�察�and has taken the right turn�察�it may now and then be relaxed。
I have this moment paid your draft of L89 75s。�察�it was signed in a very good hand�察�which proves that a good hand may be written without the assistance of magic。 Nothing provokes me much more�察�than to hear people indolently say that they cannot do�察�what is in everybody's power to do�察�if it be but in their will。 Adieu。
LETTER CXLI
LONDON�察�May 6�察�O。 S。 1751。
MY DEAR FRIEND�此 �The best authors are always the severest critics of their own works�察�they revise�察�correct�察�file�察�and polish them�察�till they think they have brought them to perfection。 Considering you as my work�察�I do not look upon myself as a bad author�察�and am therefore a severe critic。 I examine narrowly into the least inaccuracy or inelegance�察�in order to correct�察�not to expose them�察�and that the work may be perfect at last。 You are�察�I know�察�exceedingly improved in your air�察�address�察�and manners�察�since you have been at Paris�察�but still there is�察�I believe�察�room for further improvement before you come to that perfection which I have set my heart upon seeing you arrive at�察�and till that moment I must continue filing and polishing。 In a letter that I received by last post�察�from a friend of yours at Paris�察�there was this paragraph�此 �I have the honor to assure you�察�without flattery�察�that Mr。 Stanhope succeeds beyond what might be expected from a person of his age。 He goes into very good company�察�and that kind of manner�察�which was at first thought to be too decisive and peremptory�察�is now judged otherwise�察�because it is acknowledged to be the effect of an ingenuous frankness�察�accompanied by politeness�察�and by a proper deference。 He studies to please�察�and succeeds。 Madame du Puisieux was the other day speaking of him with complacency and friendship。 You will be satisfied with him in all respects。 ;This is extremely well�察�and I rejoice at it�此�one little circumstance only may�察�and I hope will�察�be altered for the better。 Take pains to undeceive those who thought that 'petit ton un peu delcide et un peu brusque'�察�as it is not meant so�察�let it not appear so。 Compose your countenance to an air of gentleness and 'douceur'�察�use some expressions of diffidence of your own opinion�察�and deference to other people's�察�such as�察 �If I might be permitted to sayI should thinkIs it not rather so�拭�At least I have the greatest reason to be diffident of myself。; Such mitigating�察�engaging words do by no means weaken your argument�察�but�察�on the contrary�察�make it more powerful by making it more pleasing。 If it is a quick and hasty manner of speaking that people mistake 'pour decide et brusque'�察�prevent their mistakes for the future by speaking more deliberately�察�and taking a softer tone of voice�察�as in this case you are free from the guilt�察�be free from the suspicion�察�too。 Mankind�察�as I have often told you�察�are more governed by appearances than by realities�察�and with regard to opinion�察�one had better be really rough and hard�察�with the appearance of gentleness and softness�察�than just the reverse。 Few people have penetration enough to discover�察�attention enough to observe�察�or even concern enough to examine beyond the exterior�察�they take their notions from the surface�察�and go no deeper�此�they commend�察�as the gentlest and best´natured man in the world�察�that man who has the most engaging exterior manner�察�though possibly they have been but once in his company。 An air�察�a tone of voice�察�a composure of countenance to mildness and softness�察�which are all easily acquired�察�do the business�此�and without further examination�察�and possibly with the contrary qualities�察�that man is reckoned the gentlest�察�the modestest�察�and the best´natured �察�man alive。 Happy the man�察�who�察�with a certain fund of parts and knowledge�察�gets acquainted with the world early enough to make it his bubble�察�at an age when most people are the bubbles of the world� �for that is the common case of youth。 They grow wiser when it is too late�察�and�察�ashamed and vexed at having been bubbles so long�察�too often turn knaves at last。 Do not therefore trust to appearances and outside yourself�察�but pay other people with them�察�because you may be sure that nine in ten of mankind do�察�and ever will trust to them。 This is by no means a criminal or blamable simulat
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